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Facebook-an Berlebihan Diharamkan Ponpes se Jawa-Madura

Kediri - Boomingnya layanan situs jejaring sosial, seperti Facebook, Friendster maupun chatting untuk menjalin hubungan pertemanan diam-diam diawasi oleh ulama.

Pondok Pesantren se Jawa-Madura yang tergabung dalam Forum Komunikasi Pondok Pesantren Putri (FMP3) bahkan mengharamkan pemanfaatan situs jejaring sosial ini secara berlebihan, seperti mencari jodoh maupun pacaran.

Pernyataan ini sesuai dengan hasil pembahasan dalam forum Bahtsul Masail di Pondok Pesantren Putri Hidayatul Mubtdien Lirboyo, Kelurahan Lirboyo, Kecamatan Mojoroto, Kota Kediri, yang dilaksanakan sejak 2 hari yang lalu.

“Ini merupakan hasil pembahasan terakhir yang kami lakukan semalam. Intinya, larangan ini kami keluarkan sesuai dengan aturan yang sudah ada dalam ketentuan agama,” kata salah satu anggota perumus Komisi C FMP3, Masruhan saat ditemui detiksurabaya.com di Pondok Pesantren Lirboyo, Jumat (22/5/209).

Dijelaskan oleh Masruhan, larangan tersebut ditekankan pada adanya hubungan pertemanan spesial yang berlebihan. Apabila hubungan pertemanan spesial tersebut dilakukan untuk mengenal karakter seseorang dalam kerangka keinginan menikahinya dengan keyakinan keinginannya akan mendapatkan restu dari orang tua, hal tersebut tetap diperbolehkan.

“Disini yang dilarang apabila penggunan Facebook hanya untuk mencari jodoh dan mengenal karakternya dan tidak dalam proses khitbah (pinangan atau lamaran),” jelas Masruhan.

Dalam penentuan pernyataan tersebut, FMP3 menggunakan sejumlah dasar. Antara lain Kitab Bariqah Mahmudiyah halaman 7, Kitab Ihya’ Ulumudin halaman 99, Kitab Al-Fatawi Al-Fiqhiyyah Al-Kubra halaman 203, serta sejumlah kitab dan tausyiyah dari ulamak besar.

“Intinya yang kami hasilkan ini sesuai dengan ketentuan dalam agama, yang secara tegas sudah menyebutkan hubungan pertemanan spesial tanpa ada maksud keseriusan diharamkan,” ungkap Masruhan.

Dijadikannya penggunaan layanan jejaring sosial sebagai pembahasan dalam forum Bahtsul Masail, dijelaskan oleh Masruhan dikarenakan penggunaannya sudah dianggap sangat mengkhawatirkan. Pertemanan dalam Facebook oleh masyarakat, sejauh ini dianggap lebih sering dilakukan dengan sifat tidak serius.

Secara terpisah juru bicara forum Bahtsul Masail FMP3, Nabil Haroen menegaskan, dalam pengambilan keputusan tersebut pihaknya menggunakan dasar yang berbeda dengan dasar yang digunakan oleh forum lain.

“Seperti MUI kalau memiliki dasar lain dengan keputusan yang berbeda kami tidak dapat menyalahkan. Kami hanya menjalankan kewajiban seorang muslim untuk saling mengingatkan, dengan tidak ada maksud menekan,” kata Nabil.

Ditegaskan oleh Nabil, hukum haram yang dikeluarkan pihaknya hanya untuk penggunaan Facebook untuk hubungan pertemanan spesial yang berlebihan. Layanan jejaring sosial semacam Friendster dan Facebook tetap dinyatakan halal apabila dipergunakan sesuai dengan manfaat dan kegunaannya.

“Kami juga harapkan, pernyataan ini bisa dijadikan pelajaran bagi owner Facebook atau Friendster, agar mereka lebih selektif serta menggunakan kontrol ketat terhadap penggunaannya,” pungkas Nabil.
( gik / ash )

Source: http://www.detikinet.com/read/2009/05/22…

Jumat, 22/05/2009 11:52 WIB

facebook

Facebook era has reached me and many of around the globe. The first time I heard it from my nephews… then… WOW… Yes it’s true that the facebook has helped many people in this very world to find the old friends and new ones completed with their photoes….

For me it’s quite an amazing experience, since some of my friends that I know and become my “friends” in facebook live abroad… USA, France, Swiss, Australia, Korea… yeah we are connected through text and picts…

For my relatives… hmm they are now addicted to open the facebook not only everyday but… every minute guys… The are not only willilng to hold their cell phones for minutes but sometimes until they get warm and hot… Ha ha ha…

For my college friends, well not many of them have opened accounts at facebook but it turns out that they are no longer in Lampung or Jakarta but abroad.

For my SMA friends, they are now starting to open their accounts after some time spend our time chatting at Yahoo Messenger…

The key is technology I guess. No matter what the job is and where you are the facebook will connect you to your old friends and start making the new “ones”…

Here is the list of my SMA friends that is dug up by Siswo Iriantono:

1. Mochamad ali

2. Mochamad ali cipto (gak duwe) roso

3. Moh. Khamim

4. Tikno

5. Trisno

6. (Inneke) Indriani

7. Esther Darmawan

8. Emi

9. Siti

10. Evi

11. Musdolanan

12. ana

13. Sumarsono (Soni)

14. Suyoto

15. Jamhari

16. Wiwid

17. Biyanto

18. Emil Pramono

19. Zainal Abidin

20. Utomo

21. Akhmad Taufik

22. Mochamad Oni

23. Kusaeri

24. M. Adkhan

25. Ahmad arab

26. Mochamad Ali Abdul Fatah

27. Siswo Iriantono

28. Gun Gun

29. Anas

30. Cah stasiun

31. Tulus basuki

33. Agung

Yeah… The name is not really in order since we wrote them while we’re chatting….

This song, this very song is really in my heart. It’s been more than a couple of decades till now (2008) that I like this song. This song tells us about the beauty of living in differences. Races, tribes, religions, languages, and any other differences among us. Just like the singers themselves. Look at them… They are different. So it’s alright to have differences but we must live in harmony… What do you think dude?

Paul McCartney & Stevie Wonder: Ebony and Ivory Lyrics
Songwriters: McCartney, Paul

Ebony and ivory

Ebony and ivory live together in perfect harmony
Side by side on my piano keyboard, oh lord, why don’t we?
We all know that people are the same where ever we go
There is good and bad in everyone,
We learn to live, we learn to give
Each other what we need to survive together alive.

Ebony and ivory live together in perfect harmony
Side by side on my piano keyboard, oh lord why dont we?

Ebony, ivory living in perfect harmony
Ebony, ivory, ooh

We all know that people are the same where ever we go
There is good and bad in everyone,
We learn to live, we learn to give
Each other what we need to survive together alive.

Ebony and ivory live together in perfect harmony
Side by side on my piano keyboard, oh lord why don’t we?

Ebony, ivory living in perfect harmony (repeat and fade)

wanna listen to the song? click this: Paul McCartney & Stevie Wonder: Ebony and Ivory

That’s a funny song. However the lyrics is utterly true. Well, not all of the words in the song is counted, though. Have you heard the song? Oh… My apology. I just forget to tell you earlier that this is about a song, sung by sindentosca and the title is kepompong. Here’s the complete lyrics:

Sindentosca - Kepompong

Dulu kita sahabat
Teman begitu hangat
Mengalahkan sinar mentari

Dulu kita sahabat
Berteman bagai ulat
Berharap jadi kupu-kupu

Bridge:
Kini/Dulu kita melangkah berjauh-jauhan
Kau jauhi diriku karena sesuatu
Mungkin ku terlalu bertindak kejauhan
Namun itu karena ku sayang

Reff :
Persahabatan bagai kepompong
Mengubah ulat menjadi kupu-kupu
Persahabatan bagai kepompong
Hal yang tak mudah berubah jadi indah
Persahabatan bagai kepompong
Maklumi teman hadapi perbedaan
Persahabatan bagai kepompong

na na na na na

Semua yang berlalu biarkanlah berlalu

Seperti hangatnya mentari

Siang berganti malam sembunyikan sinarnya

Hingga dia bersinar lagi

Back to bridge and Reff

Ke pom pong…..

Na na na na na

Na na na na na

If, just in case you haven’t listened to the song yet, you may try this link:

http://www.4shared.com/file/69974337/af4fac97/Sindentosca-Kepompong.html

Just today I feel that I was reborn. After 21 years or so, I finally could talk and laugh with my Senior High School friends… You know I left my hometown in 1987, and after since I never had any contact to all of my friends. And just because of my curiosity I can “find” few of my friends. However, the feeling that I have now is stronger than before. I feel closer, warmer and much more exciting than I usually feel. It’s because of Agustinus, Luluk, Hery, Rudi, Edi, Elly, and Ana who have made me laugh and missed the old times. Now I realize that the saying “Money can buy acquaintances but not friends” is utterly true. Those who have friends back must have felt more alive than ever…

Thanks God.

Cinquain  is a form invented by American poet Adelaide Crapsey which for the most part is in iambic meter. It typically consists of 5 lines of non rhyming verse with respectively 2,4,6,8,2 syllables. Below is repeating Cinquain, not necessarily in meter. I enjoy fitting words into a constricted form. I also like the physical look of the verses, as if the upper lines are being supported by the 8 syllable line.  http://www.kubiatowicz.com/index.htm)

Wanna see example?

Daydream

In mind
she danced through fields
of trumpet daffodils,
violets, crimson clover and
daisies.

A child
of yesteryear
chasing an elusive
monarch beneath the summer sun
alone.

Copyright © 1979¹, 1980², 1981³, 1982⁴  by David Owen Kubiatowicz

It’s been three generations that finally GMC released the H3 2008. The change is revolutionary… Wanna take a look at it? Here we go

Today is the day… with other 35 friends of mine I finally make it. It’s rather impossible but it happens. It’s only a matter of time that someone can be something or not to be one. That thing is always there as always. Then, I can make myself to be something? I hope so and I want to hope so.

Unlike any other days, today is special. I actually wait for this day to come, but today is a little bit mistaken. You know it’s a kind of a mess. It started in the morning of no energy…, no spirit…, and the worst is no confidence…

Afternoon is full of load of work. Going here and there, talking to many people, smiling, being upset… and finally the maghrib call is coming.

Oh God, finally I can blow it all… today is never been tougher in my life. Thank God…

Hi, all. Here I come. How have you been doing so far? Not fine right! Alright, amidst the hard life we live today, being fine is truly like searching a needle within a pile of hay. When we can grab it successfully, it’s just a small stuff that can not affect much on our whole contentment. So, we find it exhausting to find and disappointing after getting it.

The prices of daily needs hike steadily like a rocket targeting a valley behind a hill where enemy flocks waiting for a time to attack us. The prices are indeed attacking us our deep frustration. The ending might take our life as our defensive power is not as strong as the offense.

Hi, world. What is necessary to do to deal with such a matter? It is just simple; be submissive to God by bowing down in front of Him praying for the ultimate bless ever. Especially in Ramadhan fasting month, all prayers chanted sincerely will surely be granted.

So, worry no more about the hard life because Ramadhan comes again to shower our thirst for bless.

Happy Ramadhan, and Ana Shoimun